Wow, it’s been a while since I last posted, I’ve been on a bit of a personal sojourn. I am fascinated today by the apparent contrast of ideas that social media leaders have about the path to success, happiness, financial abundance and good health. One school seems to suggest that dogged determination and discipline is the answer. Never, never give up. The other school of thought is that getting in the flow, doing what you really love to do and being relaxed about the journey is the key.
Which way do you think works best? in fact have you thought about it at all? If you haven’t thought about it, give it some thought today and find out. Are you struggling? Do you feel like a fish swimming up river or are you just lying back and going with the flow? Doing what you feel you were always meant to be doing. Let me know which it is and how it is working for you.
I love to watch really talented people doing what they do. It doesn’t matter what it is, it could be a jeweller creating a piece of fine jewellery or a plasterer plastering a wall. There is something great about seeing people do what they do when they are at one with their work.
A similar analogy I heard was about aircraft, ” A glider works with the laws of nature, a helicopter beats them into submission”. are you gliding or beating?
Peter Harvey – Canberra
Sadly journalists don’t have a great reputation, just above used car salesmen in their credibility rating I think, but one journalist that had my respect was Peter Harvey who passed away yesterday.
I will remember him as a good balanced journalist who was able to bring good, balanced and intelligent questioning to his stories, such that you felt that regardless your position on a subject you were better informed after seeing his report and were given the opportunity to make up your own mind. His family have my condolences, he was a good man and will be greatly missed. I have to say the world would be a better place if there were more people like Peter.
A new skill I have been working on lately is learning to recognize when I have drifted of course mentally. I have given myself the excuse that as a creative, right brain person I will naturally be thinking laterally and going outside the box. That’s fine in some circumstances but it isn’t always helpful. Learning to tune in and pay attention to where my thoughts are at any precise time is a challenge. The internet is the greatest place to lose your mind, ever noticed that? My mind can drift off in a heartbeat and then hours can go by and nothing gets done. Well it feels as though stuff gets done and I can convince myself I have achieved things, but is it my best effort? No.
I have recently put in place some strategies to help keep me on track.
- Make a list of the tasks that need doing that day and prioritize them.
- Pick a task to focus on.
- Only open the specific program on my computer that I need for that task.
- Set the timer on my phone to go off in 30 minutes. It keeps me focused and measures out the day for me. I am much less likely to waste time if I am more aware of its passing.
- Consciously think about where my thoughts are on a regular basis and if necessary bring them back to the task at hand.
- Take regular short breaks, even just to get a drink or go to the toilet but do something that means getting up from my desk.
- Learn to recognize when I am functioning at my best and when I am struggling and if I am struggling, allow myself to have a change. Get some exercise, have a break, put some loud music on. Move. Whatever but don’t just sit there getting nowhere and not realizing it.
A great Audio book on this subject is “Your Brain at Work” by David Rock available from Audible.com one of the pictures he paints is that of our mind as a stage in a theatre. Our mind is the stage and we can bring actors onto and off the stage, in the form of thoughts or tasks. There is only so much space on this stage and despite the popular misconception that we can multi task, we can only do one thing (that requires active thought processing) at a time.
That Monday morning feeling again.
I can’t say I have taken a lot of time off over the Holidays period, but I have certainly made time to catch up with family and do all the usual celebrations, dinners, BBQ’s and fishing trips that is part of the holidays, but it’s now Sunday evening on Jan 6th, officially the end of the extended “Holiday period” we are blessed with in Australia.
The great news is I am actually excited about getting back to work full time and focused. I am so privileged to have work that I enjoy and want to do. Not to feel like, OH here we go again. Woop Eee it’s Monday . Now I don’t share this just to be smug and if any of you are less than excited to be going back to your job, just please be encouraged that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Phew, the New Year is here and the frantic pace that builds up to Christmas has eased.
I for one really appreciate the passing of years. What a great concept to break up our lives into yearly chunks. It gives us a chance to leave things behind. To look back and reflect. To measure progress. To compare the different years. To measure out our lives. To measure the length of our lives and compare that to others. To set qualifying levels like being 18 years before we can drink alcohol or 65 before we get a pension.
If it was not for the slightly eccentric orbit of earth we could find ourselves with no seasons and no years. So here’s cheers to a bit of eccentricity I hope this next orbit around the sun brings a new and re invigorated life to you with fresh challenges and new adventures. Don’t be a person who lives their life one year repeated over and over. Make this year significantly better than the last however good that was. Determine to make it different. We live in a world of continual improvement; at least we have the potential to make it so. Shake off whatever baggage there may be from last year and leave it behind. If it doesn’t help you in this year don’t bring it. Don’t be a victim of last year’s events. You have the power to do things differently. This thought re minds me of a story I read:
A young guy was visiting a farm and as he was standing on the veranda talking to the farmer he couldn’t help notice the dog that was sitting on a wooden crate and every few moments the dog would fidget and wriggle about on the crate as though it was in discomfort or pain. After a while of this it became distracting and a little distressing so he asked the farmer what was wrong with the dog. The farmer who had paid no attention to the dog until then said very casually “Oh it’s just the nail he’s sitting on that’s making him uncomfortable”. Why doesn’t he get up and move? I asked. Looking at me a bit strangely, like it was a dumb question to ask, he said “Because he’s not uncomfortable enough yet.
I think a lot of people are like that dog, uncomfortable but not uncomfortable enough yet to do something about it. Don’t let that be you this year.
I hope you are comfortable, but if not, determine to do something about it.
“There is nothing in this world about which I can do nothing, even if all I can do, is adjust the way I feel about the matter” Napoleon Hill
Assuming of course that we aren’t being hoaxed by the news of the nurses suicide, it really is a tragic case and highlights the risk of hoax calls.
I am not a fan of hoax calls but I recall listening to one in the car a few weeks ago, on this occasion an unsuspecting lady was being encouraged to be in a TV commercial, she was told she was the winner of a prize. The catch was, she was then encouraged to be in bed with a “fake” husband because her own wasn’t suitable. As the call went on she was cleverly put under great pressure to accept this prize as long as she would get in bed with another guy and kiss and cuddle a bit, nothing serious, she was told. Despite all the pressure and manipulation, this lady never once wavered or gave any hint that she would even consider doing this, as she had respect for herself and her husband. I felt really proud of her and was almost cheering at the radio as she took a stand for herself and the DJ’s just embarrassed themselves. The hoax call fell flat because without her agreeing to their demands, there was no punch line, the DJ’s just had to concede it was a hoax and end the call.
A successful hoax call will always have a victim. Now the victim might be able to just laugh it off in some cases, but they were still the victim and not everyone will just laugh it off. The risky part is, we have no idea what else is going on in a person’s life at that time or in their past.
Listening in and supporting hoax calls is pretty much like the crowd that would gather around a school yard fight, there would always be a victim and even if they laughed it off at the time, saying things like “that didn’t hurt” you don’t have to be Einstein to know it does, even if it is just emotionally.
My message to Mel Greig and Michael Christian is:
Humour is great, laughter is good for us, emotionally and physically but not at someone else’s expense.
I have to admire my local Real estate industry for their capacity to put a positive spin on almost any situation. My local paper carried a story the other day jubilantly announcing that house prices were now back to the same price as in 2006 and that, they say is a good reason to jump back in and start buying. Things are looking good and house prices will now start to rise.
Perhaps their right, but at the same time other headlines read, and I quote “Slowing economy boosts case for Reserve rate cut” and “Fiscal cliff talks going nowhere” . I am still really struggling to see where the next white knight is going to come from to save us. The mining sector is strong but not unbreakable and to be fair, the money only helps some people. Big sectors of the economy get no benefit at all.
The only thing that might effect house prices, is our local housing shortage, but even the law of supply and demand, requires people to have spending capacity, otherwise there’s no demand.
I am interested to see what people think will happen and also what people think does represent a good investment for the future. Is it property, gold, silver, dividend paying shares? Where would you put your money?